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Do you regret your marriage, and why?Yes and i regret that a lot, every single day i wake up, this is the first thing on my mind…worst part is that i am trapped in this marriage because of the female centric laws in my county.I am a 31 yr old guy working with in a PSU. Two years back i married this beautiful girl from my hometown who was working in the IT industry. Her father is a very powerful bureaucrat while my father is a retired govt. officer.There were differences in family values and upbringing in our families, but due to the pressure of my family i gave in and yes now i realise that was the biggest mistake of my life and one that cant be undone now.Since the girls family is extremely affluent, the marriage was a lavish affair, though there were no dowry asked as i had already purchased every thing already well before my marriage.2 months into our marriage, we went for a lavish honeymoon in Europe which costed me a bomb, but since i like travelling and my father gave me 4 Lakhs for same, i was happy about the whole thing.In Europe on day 1 only, my purse was stolen which was having all debit/credit cards and i was left at the mercy of my wife’s debit cards. This was the first time i saw a different kind of attitude in her eyes on matters of money. Eventually, we swiped around Rs. 22K from her ATM. Later i could use online banking to transfer money from my account into hers and we swiped around Rs.60K from her ATM after i transferred the same from my account into hers. All other expenses like hotel/flights/Eurail etc i had already taken care while in India, so we enjoyed a lot..Life was all rosy then barring her occasional mood swings.My parents lived in a different city so they used to come to visit us every 3–4 months. During one such visit, my wife (lets call her A) fought with me asking me to break all my relations from my mother. I was stunned at the suddenness of it and told her that this is not happening and both of you would have to live together. Till then ( and even today) she has had no confrontation with my mom, directly or indirectly. It was during this fight only, she told me that they have video proof against my mother accepting dowry from her parents. I was totally unaware of this.when i inquired about the same from my mother, i came to know that the payment for venue/ catering etc was done by my mother and they had given that amount to my mother in their house as her mother feared carrying all that money by her own. ( Now, it may sound unbelievable at first, but now that i have come to understand my sadist and manipulative MIL, i know it was easy for her to dupe may parents in all her flowery language and they made a video of it).I fail to understand who makes such videos even before a marriage is yet to start….Anyhow, we moved ahead after that fight…with each passing day i realised that my wife and all her family especially my MIL are extremely money centric and the only thing important in their lives is how many FDs, RDs, bonds and shares etc they have. I was earning three times my wife but was made to feel a lowborn before her as she was saving almost her entire salary and i was saving a very little part. This was because i was taking care of my retired parents, my younger brother’s studies and our own household expenses in addition to gifting jewelry etc to my wife on every possible occasion while she continued to live like as if it was only my responsibility to take care of all expenses. I never asked for any part of her salary and her love for money which borders crazyness, made sure that i didnt.To be fair, i also think that you should save nicely and spend wisely, but only saving at the cost of basic life’s necessities is something i cant swallow.As if this was not enough, she began pestering me to purchase a house in our city. We searched for six months for a decent house, but buying a house in a city as costly as ours, even after i had decided to take loan from my company and additional second charge loan from a bank, was becoming difficult. So after six months i gave up and said lets look for a house in Noida. The next day my MIL calls me saying that she can pitch in around 15L on a returnable loan basis, but i should buy a house in our city only. I resisted the same, but finally after a lot of persuasion i agreed. ( i was taunted that i had no intention of buying house in this city, in the first place and all the while i was looking for a house in Noida as it was nearer to my hometown) . To be fair again, since this was a returnable loan and they are multi millionaires, i had no major issue.Finally we bought a house and this is the second mistake that i have done, as i had to take a loan worth almost Rs. 70L besides loan from my inlaws. Further, due to this loan i am now a captive of my company, as i can not leave my company before repaying this loan.Anyhow, she also switched 2 companies and was now getting a good pay package and we were doing fine considering that she was paying 15K as partial EMI of one of my loans. This we had agreed before.While all this was happening, we were trying for a baby all along but pregnancy was not happening. Both of us got tested and were medically fit, but still pregnancy was not happening. The doctors advised her not to take undue stress, as it was not even two years into our marriage and both of us were perfectly fine, but she used to cry day in and day out for the same and i used to be her anchor support during all her mood swings/depressions arising out of this issue.My parents were also supportive but somehow my MIL was not at all supportive of her own daughter. She used to go to some pandit, tantrik, baba kinds for the same and used to give her a lot of stress on this topic. I was not particularly comfortable discussing all this with my MIL and told her many a times to ask MIL to relax and give time. Once i came to know, that my MIL has told my mother that the doctors had detected some problem in me in this context, but after my wife gave me some home made medicine on her mother’s advice, i became healthy in just one month….I was shocked to the core and confronted my wife who flatly refused but later told me that her mother had some misunderstandings, so she said like this…..I was like what bullshit is this????Anyways, all the fights we had all these two years were mostly about money, that why i am not saving, why i am spending money on my younger brother, why may parents cant manage in their pensions etc….I tried to make her understand my view point but she never listened. And the frequency of these fights was like every 4–5 days and lasting for like 2–3 days during which she used to give me silent treatments.The recent thaw in our relations came when i got transferred to a different location. Coincidentally, my brothers bachelors also completed in April and now he has to go for job. It is very much obvious that my brother would either stay in his current city or go to some metro for a job, but she was getting increasingly nervous that my brother might come to the new location with us. So, she started saying nice things me to me for days at length regarding we should something about my brother and blah blah…Then one fine day her mother calls me and discusses with me about how we are being irresponsible for my brother and that we should open some kind of a small shop for him in our hometown so that he can sustain his living…i was like why is she talking about him in this manner and what problem do they have with him…but i didnt say anything to her.Next my wife tells me that she is not going to my new location, if my brother is coming there….i was again shocked…my brother was anyways not coming to the new city but how can her mother decide that?So she picks up this fight with me and silent treatment starts again… In between i went to my hometown for a friends marriage and her mother gives me call asking what have we decided about my brother…i curtly told her that we will see..she yells at me that i would have to tell her because it affects her daughters life also….i am like why are they behaving in such a mad manner.Exactly 15 minutes after this call, i get another call from my wife saying that my younger brother has asked her to leave our house….i was getting mad by this point, so i call up my brother to ask what happened. He told me that my wife came out of her room suddenly and started shouting on him that he is living on her husband’s money and he needs to packup and leave. When i asked my wife if this true, she says yes it is and she cant bear to live with my brother under the same roof.From the sequence it was clear that when her mother failed in convincing me to leave my brother, she instigated her daughter to deliberately pick up a fight with my brother so he realises that he is not welcome there…Just to give a background, het mother has 2 sisters, and all the three sisters’s husbands have complicated relationships with their paternal families. My MIL wants to replicate the same model in my family and my brother is just a pawn in this game. Today, its my brother and six months later it would be my parents.Anyways, This fights was like 3 days back. Today i.e on 26.05.2017, i called my wife and said that my brother would not come with us to the new city but in addition her mother would also be unwelcome in my house and if she comes, i would be staying in a hotel during all this time. My wife told me that her mother would come whenever she feels like and i can not dictate where she is welcome or not. I can not understand these double standards!!! In addition, she tells me that if ever i try to say anything against her mother, she would implicate me in false dowry/marital rape/ etc kind of case. And considering that her father is a very powerful bureaucrat, i know we wouldnt stand a chance against them…She swore that her mother has even consulted a lawyer in this case. Further, i work in a govt. job, and 2 days in lockup would lead to automatic suspension of my govt. job. Please note that mine is a very coveted govt. and i cant take that risk.As of now, i am clueless, if this fight is actually worth it and whether i can live with this monster for my entire life or whether i should end my life, so that everyone else is happy, but i cant do that too for the sake of my old parents…My head is continuously paining due to all the stress this is causing me, while my wife is partying with her friends and telling me that she is staying late in office due to office work pressure. Can you believe, every time she is saying she is stuck up late in office, her google map position tells me the address of some restaurent / disc/pub .PS:My wife messaged me before our fight today that she loves me( but cant stand my family) and i wonder if people do this to those they love…
How can I prove that Noah's flood did not cover the whole earth with water 4000 years ago? I am married to someone who believes that the contents of the Bible are the infallible word of god.There are SO many problems with the Noah’s flood claim that it’s hard to know where to start. However, here are a few of the biggest problems with it:A handful of people somehow used stone-age tools to build a large wooden ship in which to cram potentially MILLIONS of animals, along with their many specific dietary and other requirements for an entire YEAR. That much cargo would have sunk the ship immediately. Not only that, but even with today's advanced tools and engineering it would be impossible to build such a large wooden ship without it immediately breaking apart in rough flood waters.Most animals would have had to travel IMMENSE distances to get to the ark, including many like termites, snails, sloths, koalas and penguins that have limited mobility, or that can only tolerate a narrow range of environmental conditions, or that have highly specialized diets.ALL the many diseases and parasites specific to each species would have had to be carried by at least one of each animal. Tens of thousands of diseases affect humans alone. I wonder which of Noah's family members carried all the venereal diseases exclusive to humans….For nearly all existing fossils to have been created by the flood, right before the rain started falling there had to have been an average of over 2,000 vertebrate species—ranging in size from tiny shrews to massive dinosaurs—for EVERY ACRE of land on the planet. That's not even counting the more than 90% of species that are invertebrates.If the rain came from a vapor canopy, it would have had to be superheated. If it came from ice falling from orbit, it would have become superheated upon entering the atmosphere. Add to that the water coming from the “fountains of the deep,” as the Bible describes it, which from even just a mile down would be boiling hot, and there's easily enough heat to have vaporized the oceans and destroyed virtually all life on Earth.The seismic activity pulling the continents apart, forcing up mountain ranges, and causing nearly all the world's volcanoes to erupt at the same time would have poisoned the atmosphere, generated enough heat to vaporize the oceans, and once again destroyed virtually all life on Earth.The amount of sedimentation that would need to have been mixed into the water to account for all the sedimentary layers being laid down at once would kill virtually all marine life. And most of the remaining life would have died from the radical changes in water salinity.After the flood, the water covering the entire Earth's surface would have had to go somewhere, but there is no mechanism for getting rid of anywhere near that much water.After spending a year in cramped quarters without exercise, the animals would have had to travel up to many thousands of miles across often inhospitable terrain and vast oceans to signNow their natural habitats. This includes all the animals that move extremely slowly or can only survive in limited environments.Almost no land plants or their seeds can survive immersion in water for a year, so after the flood the land would be barren, providing no food or habitats for the newly released animals.Just eight stone-age humans would have had to repopulate their former lands across the planet, reviving all the lost languages, writing, religions, professions, technologies and other unique societal developments of their former cultures, without showing any interruptions in their historical records, nor mentioning anything about a global flood AT ALL. And those eight people would have had to reproduce so incredibly rapidly that in just 150 years (fewer than eight generations) they would have had enough people to build Stonehenge, the pyramids and numerous cities mentioned in the Bible, as well as populate all of Egypt, Mesopotamia, the Indus Valley, China, and the Americas with MILLIONS of people. All this while experiencing war, disease and global famine during a migration across the entire planet. Even using a global growth rate TWICE as fast as the most rapid ever recorded in human history, there would be fewer than 5,000 people in the entire world in those 150 years, which is nowhere near the MILLIONS of people required to match even the most conservative historical estimates.The realization that the ark described in the Bible would be orders of magnitude too small to fit millions of species and their supplies--even if only young, small specimens were brought on board—has caused many creationists to conclude that new species can evolve after all…at least up to a point. They define the biblical “kind” at the genus or even family level in an attempt to bring the number of species on board the ark from millions down into the thousands. The idea is that there was a single cat kind, a single antelope kind, a single beetle kind, a single two-legged carnivorous dinosaur kind, and so on, and that AFTER leaving the ark they all rapidly evolved into multiple species to account for the tens of millions of species seen both in the fossil record and alive today.But for that to work, all the surviving animals would need to have evolved at a MASSIVELY accelerated rate right after the flood. Just to give one example, the basic “cat kind” would have had to evolve into lions, tigers, leopards, snow leopards, cheetahs, caracals, mountain lions, wildcats, lynxes, bobcats, jaguars, jaguarundis, ocelots, servals, saber-toothed cats, domestic cats, and the rest of the 13 cat genera, 40 cat species and hundreds of subspecies…and do it quickly enough to show up as mummified remains, artwork and written historical records all within a few hundred years of the flood. Ironically, that pace of evolution is far FASTER than evolutionary theory predicts. Not only that, but before splitting into multiple species, each "kind" would first have had to breed up to thousands of groups to then send to all their new environments, some of which were many thousands of miles away. Only THEN could they have evolved into the tens of millions of species that exist today and in the fossil record. However, there is no historical or fossil evidence anywhere of tens of millions of animal groups suddenly appearing, migrating all over the globe, and then rapidly evolving into new species within a few hundred years.Further reading:Problems with a Global FloodThe Impossible Voyage of Noah's ArkThat should do for now….(Edited for clarity and some additional material)
How many of you can actually claim you feel comfortable with Japanese? What’s your proof? How do you do it?I am Italian and I live with my wife in a house I bought with my own money My mother-in-law has been living with us for a year and a half, now. She is so clean and helpful that I don’t mind at all her being here. My wife is far busier than I am, so I cook for both of them, two square meals a day.Most of my friends are Japanese, I rarely speak English and even more rarely rarely Italian. We laugh together, we gossip about our neighbors and in general have lots of such innocent fun.At the moment I’m waiting for two friends who should arrive anytime now.Sometime ago I was with those two friends when I got a phone call from a relative. It was the first time they heard me speaking Italian, so everybody was staring at me. When I put the phone down one commented:” I know it sounds dumb, but I was amazed to see that you can speak Italian.” This gives you a measure of how much she accepts me.My Japanese is far from perfect, so I assume that she got so used to it that she no longer notices my accent.Everybody of course knows I am not a Japanese, but the fact is usually forgotten, as that phone call proves. It’s a little bit as if I were a famous something, say an architect. It makes me a little special.Bottom line: I think of them as Japanese only rarely, when something happens that reminds me I was born elsewhere. I feel no pressure, no desire to be anywhere else.How do I do it? It took time. I had to learn the language and the culture to the point where being with me was for them effertless. That is how it is in Japan and esewhere.Human beings are the same anywhere, under the skin, and friends are friends.Incidentally, I have also been discriminated against and asked to leave (a hotel in Kyoto, for example. My wife had booked under her name) specifically and solely because I am white. Episodes that do not change an otherwise successful experience.
How do I date someone better than me?I get that there are a lot of very "nice" answers here, but I'll be blunt. I'm answering this question anonymously because I don't want my ex-bf to see this and feel weird about it. For the record I'm a 24-year-old, slightly above average female. I think realistically, in every relationship, there's a signNower and a settler, in some sense. Just because, you are two individuals, and it is impossible for two people to be exactly the same. Even if you are comparable in every single way to outsiders, you may still feel like there's a signNower and a settler between the two of you. Like how couples like to argue about who loves the other one more. When I was dating my ex, everyone told me that I was better than him (sorry, just stating a fact). And in many ways, I also thought that I was better than him and I knew I could have dated someone better if I wanted to. BUT, the important thing was, I thought *I* was lucky to be in a relationship with him. I think two things contributed to that- 1, he treated me exceptionally well, and I felt more spoiled than ever (which is saying a lot because I know my parents also spoiled me growing up). and 2, although I think he was aware of the fact he was probably the signNower, he didn't let that affect his confidence... I know it sounds almost contradictory, but it was like he knew he also thought he was lucky to be with me, and he was willing to do whatever to keep me.There was this famous experiment where a group of 100 people were given a unique number from 1 to 100 each and the participants were asked to pair up into two's (a male + a female) and the "couple" would get a multiple of the sum of their numbers. However, the participants don't know what number him or her had. Of course, the ones with 95-100 on their backs figured out that they probably had a high number pretty quickly. The results, however, wasn't that 99 got paired up with 100, but someone in the 70s/80s. And, it was quite common for a girl with much higher number to be paired up with a guy with a lower number (something like 10-20 pts of difference). The point is, I think, that for girls, there are A LOT of things outside of the "objective" better/worse paradigm that determines how much we love another person. If you think your girlfriend is better than you in every way, don't make that the reason you doubt yourself. You can treat her very well, find some area to improve on, and I think the important thing is to have both people in the relationship to think, "ah, I am the lucky one". Of course it's not always going to work out but I'm a strong believer of what's yours is yours and what leaves probably wasn't meant to stay anyways.
How can someone in Japan marry a Japanese women?I am assuming that you are a foreigner.Yes, a foreign man living legally in Japan can get married to a Japanese woman. You must get from your embassy or consulate affidavits signNowing that you are legally free to marry. The affidavit is sometimes referred to as a Certificate of Eligibility to Marry (konin yoken gubi shomeisho; 婚姻要件具備証明書). Some embassies have versions in Japanese and some do not. You may need to get a certified translation of the document.The next thing that is necessary is a copy of both people’s Registry of Current Residence (jūminhyō: 住民票). This can be gotten, for a few hundred yen, at the municipal office where the person is registered.The next step is to fill out the Application / Notification of Marriage (konin-todoke; 婚姻届). You can get this at the same municipal office at which you get the Registry of Residence. You can fill out the form on the spot or take it home and do so at your leisure.With the filled out Marriage Application, the Registry of Residence, and the Certificate of Eligibility you are almost ready to do the deed. Go to the local municipal office and give the above papers to the person at the Citizen Affairs Office (shimin ka; 市民課). You will also need to hand over your Residence Card (Zairyu Card; 在留カード). You should also bring along your personal seal and, just to be on the safe side, your passports. A few minutes after handing all this over, the civil servant will come back and tell you that they are finished with the paperwork and you are now [legally] married. The entire process is without charge.Should you want some sort of paper saying that you are married you can ask for a certificate or declaration of marriage (Konin Todoke Juri Shomei-sho; 婚姻届受理証明書). This may cost a few hundred yen. I believe that some cities have started giving out, for a nominal fee, a fancier looking marriage certificate. This was not an option when and where I got married.Now the question remains as to whether the marriage in Japan is legally binding in your home country. This will depend on the treaties between the countries involved. This question is best answered by your embassy.Can you do the marriage thing in a city you do not live in? Perhaps, but you will need to get all the paperwork in order before you go to their municipal offices. You will probably have to fill out that city’s Application for Marriage.Good luck. Live Long and Prosper.
Can you share a one-sided love story?It was written at the stroke of midnight with my tears.You know what was the best thing about that night?I ended up thinking of old memories, that hit me hard. My soul just melts in those moments and I end up regretting. So I started to write it down on paper.Back in 2013:I had prepared for JEE for years. Everyone around me had lots of expectations from me. But, during the exam, when I saw, that the paper was tough and I can't clear the exam, I felt miserable pain. My eyes were filled with tears. I could see the hard work I had put in preparation was going in vain. Nothing could have been worse.Results were announced. I qualified for JEE with average marks. I collected myself and prepared myself for the second chance to prove.On the second year of preparation, I saw a girl, beautiful enough to grab anyone's attention. Those sparkling eyes in glasses were just beautiful. The charming beauty of her face was pleasing.Few months passed, just by observing her. One day, she came with H.C. Verma and started asking her doubts to me. That was how our talking session started. That day I realized, because of external beauty, easy problem can also be misinterpreted to be difficult. The problems, which I had solved at home, turned out to the most difficult problem of JEE.After a few days, I saw her in my FB suggestions, so I sent her a friend request. Few hours later, a notification popped up, “Request accepted”. I was very happy like, I was on cloud nine.Chatting started.But back then, I was barbarous, uneducated. I had no dressing sense. I didn't even had good communication skills. In my continuous attempts to talk, I did realize that she was trying to ignore me. She was acting pricey.Since she was in another batch, we rarely met. My mind always said, “Focus on your career, the girls will keep coming” and I followed the same.On 1st April 2016:(I had read somewhere, if you want to propose, propose her on 1st April. If she agreed, then it's cool, otherwise, Happy April fool)."Can you please set a place for me in your heart, not in your mind because mind forgets easily but heart remembers forever" I messaged this after thinking zillion times."Didn't find anyone else to joke around" She replied diplomatically."I am serious" I said in my favor.“Ok" Her last message.After that, I was no longer to reply that chat. I was blocked. (Why the h**l facebook gave blocking option?)I thought of saying a sorry, but I was blocked on facebook, didn't have her contact and coaching classes were over. So, neither I found a way, nor her.In September 2017:I joined a coaching institute for SSC/Bank (Another story ahead, to be continued. Read forward).In April 2018:Again I saw her on Instagram suggestion.Sent her follow request, Not accepted.I thought, she didn't see that, so I resent it. Still not accepted.I thought, she must be getting confused with my username. So I changed my username to @its_uddhav from @quora_cowboy. And sent it again. But the same thing happened, It remained unaccepted.So I cancelled the request, and dropped this sorry message in the night:"I'm not sure if what I did was wrong or not, but that doesn't matter. I was too arrogant to even say a sorry back then, and I even thought that maybe I was right. But later realized that I had hurt you beyond belief. And for that, even if it's too late, I'd like to say sorry. I know a sorry won't change the way you feel, but an apology is necessary nevertheless."And the very next morning, I saw her in the same institute, where I was preparing for SSC/Bank. It was beyond my expectations. I saw her after 2 years. I swear she looked more beautiful. But this time, I wasn't the same. She waved her hand and I replied with the same.I opened the Instagram, Unsent the message (Thanks to Insta for this feature).After few weeks, we got an opportunity to organize an event together and during those event, she said:I have seen your message. You are completely changed.I smiled inside.Now, we never talk. Neither on Facebook, Insta, nor on WhatsApp, I didn't even try. Even, everything was normal after meeting for the second time.In September 2017: (Continued)When I took admission in the prestigious Institute. It was my first day at that institute and on the very first day, I saw a girl. She became my instant crush (everyone of my class knew about this including her).She was so beautiful that I was not able to control myself from looking at her secretly during the class. I used to feel like I am on cloud nine all the time. Throughout the day I used to wait for the coaching time, so that I can see her. Whenever she spoke, I used to listen to her, forgetting everything else in the world.The quirkiness in her sense of humor exhibited her cheerful nature. The cuteness in her voice displayed her soft side. Her craving for attending lectures, exhibited her intelligence. And her eyes, do I need to say anything about them?I had a whole list of what made me fall in love with her. They were a million little things, things she didn't even realize but the main reason I was attracted to her was the way she carried herself. I would have to say the fact that she was genuine all around. And a good kind girl.Somehow I got to know about her birthday and I decided to propose her on that day.20th November 2017:After waiting for months, the day came. With full of excitement I wrote a letter (which took me 6 days to complete). On the day of her birthday, with some chocolates and that letter, I signNowed the auto stop at 9:00 AM, from where she took her auto daily. I keep waiting for her for hours, she didn't come. When I signNowed coaching, I found her absent.On way back to home, I tore that letter into thousand of pieces. Distributed those Chocolates to roadside kids.After few days, I saw her in a restaurant. Her hand was in someone's hand. Looked carefully, she was with none other than my close friend.I didn't speak a word. I was speechless. Came home and texted him:Congratulations brother.In front of her, I pretended as if I didn't know anything (Fortunately, she didn't see me in that restaurant).She was an intelligent, classy girl and I was always in awe of her. I never had the guts to start a conversation with her though.“I would never want her to be referred to as my girlfriend, a term too polluted and often abused, because she was much more than that”.I didn't try again. There wasn't a way that I wanted to lose her, but I already did. I learned a lot from my past experiences. But it wasn't enough, I was humble, always available, always trusted her. But for unknown reasons which had no significance at all.Source: 1 million+ Stunning Free Images to Use AnywhereThanks for scrolling.In case if you are reading my answer for the first time. Hello! I’m Uddhav Yadav✍️Your anonymous feedback and suggestions are always welcomed here: Uddhav Yadav
What are some of your deepest and most horrifying secrets that only you know about?I am writing this because for many years I wanted to pour my heart out about what had happened in my childhood.So the story goes like this-First incident-i was 11 years old at that time.It was my bday and that very same day one of my cousins with her husband came to our house for some reason.In the evening we were celebrating my birthday in one of the upper rooms of my house.After that all my family members (my parents,2 siblings and my cousin)went downstairs to do their respective chores.Now I was left alone with my cousin's husband in that room and which he took advantage of.He called me near him and as I went up to him he started pressing my breast harshly.I got scared and didn't know what he was doing.I was so innocent to understand his intentions.Somehow I left the room and went downstairs.In the morning they left our place.I didn't know that time what he had done was wrong but I was so Disturbed that it didn't get out of my mind.Over the years I got to know that what he had done was child abuse.Now I am 21 years old and My parents treat him very dearly.Till date I have no courage to tell these things to anybody though I know that my parents and siblings are very supportive and they will surely confront that person when they get to Know about it.But I am afraid because this will cause a strain in relationship between the two families because of this I have to still witness respect given to him by my parents.This was not the only incident that happened to me.Second incident-In 12th standard i was having cough and cold and went to a doctor alone.He asked me to lay down and as he was checking my heart beat through stethoscope I felt he purposely trying to touch and press my breasts but I was frozen with this sudden thing.Suddenly I woman came in the room and the doctor shouted on her like he got caught doing something wrong which made it clear that what I was thinking was right.Again I never told about this to anyone.Third incident-I was in first year of my college.One day I was traveling in a bus at night and a sadhu baba in a dhoti kurta came and stood beside me.Sometime later I felt he was pressing his penis on my arm purposely and continuously.I made a glare at him and he stopped doing that.Then he sat there only and started touching my feet.Then for the first time in my life I gathered all my courage and shouted on him to stop what he was doing. It was such a relief…I am feeling so much relief now because this is the first time I am sharing all these incidents with anyone.Its not like my family won't understand it but for some unknown fear I am not able to tell anyone about these like many other girls.One thing I learned from these incidents was that if we raise our voice against the abuser at the right moment he will never dare to do that stuff ahead.And for all the people who read this I want to urge you that never leave alone your children with strangers even with your relatives.Never ever send them to a doctor alone.Always teach them to raise their voice against abuse at the very right moment.Thanks quora for giving us this platform..:-)