Initial Myself Made Easy

Initial myself

my dreams are first everyday then my wife then my kids I could take care of my wife and my kids now would you agree I abandoned this this is the fuel for Who I am I abandon this dream and then I end up I can't take care of them and then I'm gonna tell them what it's alright that you didn't win no it's not alright if you don't win you need to win how many of you need to win more okay if you don't control your environment folks somebody else is going to control your environment you guys have run teams and run organizations if you do not control your environment someone else will control your environment you are being controlled in your environment right now CNBC CNN MSNBC the parents the kids the Twitter the Facebook the YouTube the Google the snapchats are your environment your friends and your relatives your uncle's your aunts the garbage dump called planet Earth that you live on is mostly broken people if you don't control your environment it starts with me when I was 45 years old Mike I'm gonna control my environment I'm gonna take every penny I have all the energy I have all the resources I have and I'm gonna improve me if I got to go broke in the process because I'm already broke look if you're not fulfilled - you're if you're not reaching your full potential every day you're broke right I know that everybody's problem comes down to one pattern you're repeating that you can't see and that pattern is getting triggered by something that happened in your past that left you with this emotional scar and so for me the thing that I always always always have to deal with in myself is the fear of disappointing somebody so if I'm in a situation where I start to feel that it's an old trigger and so when you finally have a word that describes in a visceral way this thing you hate about yourself or this thing that triggers you or whatever it may be that's where the power comes because now you can name the thing that was once controlling you and so if you can identify first of all the pattern you keep repeating that makes you miserable or doesn't serve you or makes you lose your power or has you go numb then you can start to go back and say well where did I where did I first start doing this and what was the experience that triggered it because that's the root of the problem right there and when you expose all of that the trigger and the emotional button like my I'm afraid of disappointing people I'm afraid of disappointing people I'm not worthy I'm not worthy you know I'm pissed off that I that this is happening to me now you have the ability to change it forever any type of danger right gives you this flight-or-fight response so train starts with training jujitsu boxing Muay Thai wrestling shooting competing competing right you get used to those butterflies when you compete you get those butterflies and you get used to them and so train and get used to seeing how that reaction what that adrenaline feels like and and also get used to understanding what the superior action is right fight or flight because sometimes flight is the correct sometimes fight is the correct response but what you want to do is you want to be able to assess and dictate which response you're gonna give and not just do whatever your instinct tells you because sometimes your instinct might be wrong and so again I don't know what you're actually you're the situation where you're going into but whatever it is because people get the fight-or-flight response to to everyday things to like public speaking right oh yeah rock climbing and that's why I say do you know do these things training them so public speaking rock climbing you know if you want to get good at Rock Blanco you're gonna get over that fight-or-flight response when you get out go go rock climbing you're used to it you scared of heights coots go start parachuting you know you'll get used to it you're scared of the water get worked up and go through swimming and then come scuba certified just well the things that you're not comfortable with get comfortable with being uncomfortable there is no such thing as complete control nothing no one has complete control in any situation people that leading organizations in some ways have less because not only do they have to control what they do they have to help persuade everyone else what they do but you know if you are able to take responsibility I'm not late because there was traffic I'm late because I didn't leave early enough to account for the fact that there was traffic the project didn't get finished not because my friend my partner didn't do it my colleague didn't do his part the thought the project didn't get finished because I didn't set up a team where my colleague wanted to do his part when you take responsibility and you take full responsibility that is the most empowering thing and you can do it at any stage you have to do it if you're raising money as an entrepreneur you have to do it if you are if you're trying to persuade people to work with you you have to do it at all stages a lot of people walk with masks and try to please others what they do when living authentically seems like a really important thing of course it is if people are trying to please others because they do not know who they really are when you know who you really are and have chosen to step into the living of that the idea of pleasing someone else becomes less and less useful to you less and less attractive less and less beneficial because too often in order to please someone else you have to abandon who you really are and betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonetheless mm-hmm it's the highest betrayal mm-hmm so we learned that as we get older and we learned that oh I'm not going to betray myself anymore for me I would say it's all driven by curiosity and the desire to be personally challenged those two things I can sum up sum it all up and I don't know if if it's a it's if it's a formula for success it's just what what drives me very curious I want to know more I choose projects that I'm going to learn from I choose projects that are challenging I don't want to do the same thing twice so I think you know I think personal challenge you know trying trying to to strive for excellence and to me that the in filmmaking the excellence is how excellent can the the entertainment experience be for the audience you know I'll pull out all all stops the project oriented person and so whenever I whenever I attack something I'm attacked it you know singularity but now also with multiple teams so obviously I can't do all this I'm doing alone you know right but I need I need to focus on one project at a time and see a beginning an end I think for the most part when I mean for a long time I was I would do certain projects but I would never finish them I think that's the case for a lot of people it's like you have this drive to start something and then you don't know how to end it you don't know how to execute and you're afraid of the product you're afraid how you're going to be perceived and it's about overcoming that fear too you know it's like it's it's hard I actually like to instill this just this execution part of starting and ending a project with my team I walked around G breaching constantly don't you ever think you're a victim if you ever feel like a victim get out cuz if enough of you get out we'll find out who's making you feel like a victim it's your job to take responsibility go find another game there's plenty of games here unemployment slow here go find something else go on your own do something but Jesus don't spend most your waking hours feeling like a victim were you working at McDonald's and when I was an acting training ground for you and what else is what you make your purchases I mean I so I went to UCLA I was a literature major meant that my dad want to be mean to be a math major I wanted to go to art school to compromise that I say literature once I got to UCLA I realized you know half the towns in the movie business and suddenly I saw that they were practical steps I could take to get into the movies and I didn't seem to be doing that you know in my Milton class you know it just seemed like the long road to other I didn't even know where and so I eventually dropped out of UCLA after a year went to acting school Valley and and my parents said they wouldn't support me if I wasn't going to university and so I had to get a job and I couldn't you know all the other actors had better off you know they were they got all the great waiting jobs and somebody said you're too good to work at McDonald's I said no and you know it was a you know cuz I I wanted to be an actor and everything felt like that was the only way I would be able to do it it was not it was a really important lesson actually that you know going in and working and being responsible for myself really showed me how much I wanted yeah like it wasn't the soft way you know I had to really work for