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[Music] again another video this videos me talking about how the narcissus uses a they deploy a tactic that uses purpose purposely misleading at least a target to create confusion so in other words initially narcissus may come off as disinterested sometimes are indifferent to things about yourself for which you have going on right now you know one of the things this does is to separate them because of course they try to always keep that persona or that air of superiority over other people so when dealing with them you'll notice they'll kind of say my god and different about things I'll just give the the the air that they're better than something like it is too much for them to really give concern but then maybe later down a line you'll see them really praising and admiring something initially that they could care less about that they had no interest in that they really didn't give any consideration to now the purpose for this is so that for when it kind of throws the victim off into thinking that well if they you know they kind of grew on you right it makes it it see this is where the flattery really takes its stronghold on the victim because the person starts feeling like well if they were really trying to you know manipulate me and boost me up they wouldn't be doing it now it's like maybe they did maybe I did kind of maybe I did win them over when all a while this was the this was the plot this was the scheme to give you a disinterested type of disposition and then later switch that up or you know you know come back at you with admiration right admiring you patronizing you you know appeasing you right and you psychologically you can take this as Wow well maybe we're getting somewhere we're gaining some ground but no that's the illusion you're not gaining any ground the narcissus is basically setting you up you know to be primed and to be targeted you know to to to later than you know manipulate you and get you in a position to where they can control you later now why does this work this works because initially when the narcissus is showing such disinterest and going against things it's naturally for a person I mean nobody wants to just not be flat-out not accepted when they haven't done anything to to be rejected right and so the narcissus knows this and they use that tactic to basically implement their their their controls so they'll be against a lot of things initially that you know you're for there'll be an opposition very contrary to a lot of things that you you stand on like if you like one thing they'll purposely dislike and like something else for know for no rhyme or reason you know but it's all about getting you to see initially that they're different they have a their own stance on things and they're not impressed by you basically and and in a lot of ways the person some people will try to alter that perception in the narces now this is where they are monitoring to see just how much you do try to alter their perception of how they see you how much you are trying to get them to like and accept you the more work you start putting in there gauging you and and they're seeing how effective this tactic is working on you you know they're seeing just how you are eager and desperately wanting to be accepted validated acknowledged so you'll notice after a while the things that they may have started off being contrary to now they like not only like a lot of things you like now they're green what a lot of things that you you you know whatever position that you stand on or pinging that you may hold now they feel the same way and this is when they start mirroring heavy mirroring to the point where it's almost like wow we think the same you can almost finish my sentence well this is because the narcissus has had time to see how you operate to see how you function to see how your head and your thoughts flow so now they're in there so now they start agreeing strategically agreeing strategically going along with what you liking and the things you don't like they don't like to because now they have gotten enough time to basically configure how how you you process how you're set up as an individual being and then they start to give you back the very things that you you know you like you desire and they avoid all the things that you know may cause discomfort with you and this is very powerful because it's building a false report it's getting you to bond and Trust more importantly this individual who does not have your best interest whatsoever and so at this point when the narcissus has gotten in there and has married you and you think it's the biggest part what happens is and it wasn't you know and I had to come to this awareness to after a while when you think they actually like these qualities about you it's not a liking whatsoever its appeasing you on the things that they feel that you feel strongly are proud about yourself right flattery and this is all false it has nothing to do with the real the reality of what a person you know what a person really honors about themselves right so the narcissus gets in and they start this process of appeasement and and flattering and next thing you know you're falling for the person you feel like wow this is the the person that you know I should be with and all of this is fake they don't even feel that way about you because they still feel that they are better they still feel that they are more superior and so you in turn start giving more and more of yourself based off the you know this this false acceptance and now the narcissus is at a place where they they can be comfortable with accepting that because now to them they know they can give a damn or care less about these special qualities you have or whatnot if it's not been directly benefiting them right if it's not directly benefiting them they can care less about it and so the more you put out and put out and put out they'll keep taking now the thing is because they don't value you or any of your qualities they start to neglect it they start to abuse it they start to take it for granted as though it's worth nothing and this is where the first initial conflicts come into place because you start feeling like wow I can't believe like this is this is going on what about I thought I was so special I thought I was so this and that then you start realizing that a lot of this because the narcissist quickly changes their position on that by you know now you're you're no good you can't do good at this or you you're not you're not this or you're not that whatever you know but they start to downplay everything that they were so quote-unquote you know praising and and and and and appreciative of from you so now it creates that confusion and it's like well wait a minute I thought you felt this way in this way and then now they're telling you all the things they don't like all the things that make them react the way to you you know based off you know them you know basically it's really based off them not getting their way but they start to bring up all these things about what they don't like what they can't stand and now you're in the position of trying to get the this the the false illusion of what you thought this person really liked about you you're trying to now fight to get that back but it never was there in the first place so this is the game this is why it worked so well and the narcissist is basically pulling the strings having you fight for you know the the acceptance in the honor and you know the praise and value from someone who you thought you won over someone who you thought you had really a great rapport with you know and honestly it never existed in the first place so you're you're you're fighting for someone who could give a damn about you but you're fighting for that validation it has no value because the person who's giving the validation never Valley value you in the first place never respected you in the first place this was about a conditional transaction it was a test a conquest and you fell into it you fell into the the trap that the narcissus laid for people when they're trying to gain another source right and so when you go to fighting to to win this this this person back over the game that validation is of the narcissus back and now they play the game because now you're also revealing just how deeply [Music] deeply and mentally and you know tongue twister right here but you've fallen into a state of where the narcissus I've seen how much that their doctrine has been embedded into your mind and how much they're they're able to still control you and you still don't see it you still don't get it that's why they're laughing because they're like this person doesn't even get that on and give a damn about them and they're still trying to fight for me they're still trying to win me over and get me back right and so the most important thing to take from this and to understand is if you're dealing with someone who is saying how much they value and appreciate the things about you they're never gonna in turn turn around and start to bash you and put you down for those same things that they supposedly honor and value so much it doesn't go together if someone really values the qualities and the person that you are as an individual they're always gonna hold that near and dear to them and that's gonna be the very thing that stops them when they do feel like going to that level of even disrespecting or dishonouring you that's gonna be the very thing that stops them from even doing it so if a person can just go that point and go that way they never honored or cared about you in the first place that's all I have to say for this video everyone make sure you hit the like button hit that like button hit the thumbs but thumbs up also subscribe if you haven't subscribe share the videos too as well as sometimes it helps people out definitely make sure a lot of you still sleep and lot of you haven't got the departure of empathy documentary very good documentary a lot of questions that people ask there's a lot of visual demonstrations of what goes on in these narcissistic type situations that can give you a visual basis versed on just as talking about it so we do have some dramatizations in there with actors that you know going over certain scenarios also the e-book course that I have out the anti narcissists awareness training Academy goes over all types of information and the language the verbage the styles that they have the different styles of narcissus everything that you need it's a course very very good to get and have on deck too as well make sure you get that you know definitely make sure you get that these things do help and in finding clarity so I'll leave the trailer of departure of empathy at the end of this video and also I'll leave the links where you can click on that get them to take you directly to it these are all digital downloadable at least products at least so they'll they're down there email at the moment you purchase it you have instant access to it anyway that's all I have to say for this video guys we'll talk to you soon have a good one